The first step in understanding your trauma is accepting the fact that you have experienced something in your life that deserves to be healed or worked through in a healthy manner. Before accepting that you may need to take control of this situation before properly moving on, you will constantly feel the post traumatic stress of the ordeal.
Reach out & Use your Voice
The world is a crazy place! Never be ashamed to ask for help when YOU need it most. Whether it is a close friend to sit alone with you in silence or for a family member to hear your heart spill out to them. Be sure to help the other person understand what you need for them in that situation so they can be there for you and prepared to help the best way they can. Telling them you need someone to listen, keep you company, give advice, or help you with your progress, this only makes them feel encouraged. Nothing makes me feel worse than when I can feel my energy letting someone know they are NOT helping me the way that I need right now. Voicing my needs is important.
Sometime we do not feel as supported by our circle or are ashamed for the position we are in. There is no need for this shame but it is typical way we respond to trauma. Below are some important hotline numbers we should all have access to. Please, know you are never alone in this and that everyone need’s support in life even if it is a friendly voice over the phone.
+ National Domestic Violence Hotline Call 1-800-799-7233 (24/7)
+ RAINN: Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network Call 1-800-656-4673 (24/7) Live Chat with RAINN (24/7)
+ Child Abuse Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline Call 1-800-422-4453 (24/7) National Safe Place Text SAFE and your current location to the number 69866 (24/7)
+ Runaways, Homeless, and At-Risk Youth National Runaway Safeline Call 1-800-786-2929 (24/7) Live Chat 7 days/week, 4:30 to 11:30 PM CST Home Free Family reunification program provides free bus tickets to eligible runaway and homeless youth.
+ Dating Abuse & Domestic Violence loveisrespect Call 1-866-331-9474 (24/7) Chat Online with loveisrespect (7 days/week, 5:00 PM to 3:00 AM EST) or text loveis to 22522
+ Depression & Suicide The Trevor Project Call 866-488-7386 (24/7) Live Chat with the Trevor Project (Fridays 4:00 PM to 5:00 PM EST)
Learn to Let Go
YOU have to take control of your trauma but you are not alone in all you are going through. Tell someone, chat with a stranger, journal your biggest tragedies, sit in silence, do SOMETHING. Stand up today and tell yourself it is time to live me life for me and stop barely living because that is what you think you deserve. Your anxious heart is worthy of all the love in the world. Download a stress management app like Headspace or go all out and get a therapist in-person or on the Cerebral website.
No one can control the things that happen to us in life, but we can control the ways we get through this.
I HOPE the world is kind to you & your heart-ships were not so heavy today.